Rules of Engagement #6

Wow.  What a crazy crazy few months.  Let me start off by saying I love my fiance, and bride to be more than I have loved any single person on this Earth. Ever. Period. No Questions.  I have been doing my rules of engagment thing for some time now.  Check out some older ones. And if you have any rules of engagement that you have learned in your experience, or just general questions.  Help a brother out.

I know I haven’t had much input into this wedding.  Not necessarily because I don’t care, but because I don’t know. I honestly thought going into this that all I had to do was pop the question, and show up a little while later, kiss the girl, and live happily ever after.  I was wrong.

I don’t have the slightest clue how Andrea does it, and remembers every thing.  Some people might say my memory isn’t 20/20 anyway, and now throwing all of this into the mix.  Let’s just say I am not performing well.  So. On to rules of engagement number 6.

Give some input.  Make suggestions.  Handle it well when (if, but really when) your suggestions are shot down.

Like I said before, Andrea is awesome at this kind of thing.  Baby showers, parties, house get togethers, and now add weddings to her resume. She just gets it. (And she is gifted in bargain shopping, I think she gets it from her mother.) Normally when she comes to me asking a question, I don’t give much input.  That’s my flaw.  Let me say though.  You need to give input.

Women don’t think, “He’s not giving input about my (our, but really my) wedding.” (From what I gather about women.) Women’s minds don’t work like that.  At least not from my perspective.

A woman is going to be thinking,“He can’t even give me a suggestion about something as simple as centerpieces, what is he going to be like when we are choosing our first baby outfit, or if we are choosing a bed.  I can’t believe he doesn’t seem interested.  I want him to like it too, if he doesn’t give me input, I’m going to be wondering, does he like it? Does he love it?  Does he hate it?  Could I have done better?  Could I do worse? Do these shoes match my green purse, should I be wearing white?  It’s after labor day, but that’s kind of a thing of the past.  Right? I think so, yeah.  Right.  I wish he’d give me some input. How many calories does this fiber bar have?”

I might not always care about the decor of the wedding, or how centered or straight a picture on the wall is.  It’s not my fault, I’m a male.  What I do care about is that my future wife knows I’m willing to do anything and everything in my power to make sure we communicate, we are both happy, that I do have opinions and, I am going to care about stuff she cares about.

Guys.  A suggestion.  Throw some opinions out there.  It might even be a good one.  I did that with our invitations, and we’ve gotten 90 RSVP’s.  So, it can turn out well.  In my opinion, the worst thing to do is to keep quiet.